That thoughts come and go – you are free to choose at any moment which to hold on to and which to let go.

To maximize your free time, try to combine trips outside the home. For example, you might plan to go shopping on your way home from work, to save the extra trip.I have a couple of very close friends who really care about me and want to spend time with me. So, some people like me” Remember: you don’t feel reality; you feel your thought interpreting reality. Chapter 3: Healthy Psychological Functioning

P 68. If you drop the idea about yourself that you are shy person, you might find that you really do like to communicate with other people. A client of mine recently decided to do just that, and has just planned the first party they have ever hosted. If you begin to ignore thoughts you have about what you like and don't like, you might be willing to try new things. It all starts with the willingness to see yourself as more than what you have defined yourself to be. P 49. Once a person learns that the secret of mental health is the dismissal of negative thoughts, he is free to experience mental health regularly. The passage of time has no real relevance in helping us to get over something other than encouraging us to think about things besides whatever is bothering us. Assign space. One of the most common prescriptions psychologists give for curing insomnia is to set aside the bedroom for sex and sleeping only. By creating a dedicated, assigned space for specific activities, you convince your brain to engage in those activities whenever you enter that space. Take this method to heart as much as your space allows:P 19 if you can begin to see that your thoughts are not the real thing – they are just thoughts and thosethoughts they can't hurt you– Your entire life will begin to change Organize your time. You can set a budget for your time just as you can set a budget for your money. Since you're trying to reduce worry rather than increase it, go into this process with a focus on maximizing your personal time, rather than cramming as much as you can into each day. Sometimes, some events are objectively negative; it is inevitable that, at some point in your life, you’ll have to deal with a broken relationship and, at another, even with the loss of a loved one. Walking is exercise. Sports, Pilates, and playing with the dog are too. It doesn’t have to be training for the next Olympics. Just get moving, and get tired. 5. Become the ultimate skeptic. Fear is a big catalyst in making us reach for harmful coping habits and attitudes. However, when we consider that fear is a life saving tool, we can reframe fear to help ourselves.